A few years ago I was asked, during an interview, what personal accomplishment I was most proud of. Without any hesitation I said "my kids". No matter what's gone on in my career, that will always be my greatest accomplishment and I get such peace and joy from it.
To have children is the greatest joy in life and gives you a sense of intentional purpose and leaves a legacy for your grandchildren as a job well done. Sacrifice for others is an intentional decision with lifelong dividends.
there is even a French - Belgian motto, L'union fait la force. Exactly that.
At least, the US allows home schooling. The countries in Europe mostly forbid it, unless the home schooling parent is a teacher.
I think there should also be some kind of reward towards stay at home mothers (or fathers). A Belgian political party in the 80s tried to get that done, but failed.
exactly regarding europe. here it is nearly impossible to home school. or your kid is totally retarded so keep him/her at home or must be a top sport person who can prove has no time for scheduled school. otherwise the only option is indoctrination.
My wife and I had decided early on that she would be a stay at home Mom for our three children. She was offered her dream position one week before she gave her notice. I picked up a second job some years later to pay for a private Christian Academy. I worked two jobs for eight years before I was confident I could swing it with one. I am blessed beyond belief, my eighth Grandchild is due in June and through it all I would not change one thing. Thank you LORD.
I am frustrated by the scapegoating of “tech” for the destruction of western children’s psyches. It’s not the tech; the tech is where these children turn when their lives are made disorienting and meaningless.
Don’t blame the tech. Parents have a job to do, and it’s a hard job, that you most assuredly can royally fail at. It takes serious intention and inner work to become a parent of highly-functioning children.
I considered my self fortunate and never regretted that I was able to take an extended leave after my children were born and then only worked 2 days a week (while my mother in-law watched them) till they were school aged. Sadly our society is now outsourcing teachers to AI programs. We even give children as young as preschool a device in the name of education. I hope as a society we can somehow reverse this trend. We need to put childhood before profits.
In fact I chuckled when I read at the beginning of the scamdemic, that kids were going to have to learn at home with computers. I just had seen pictures from American classrooms with all kids at a computer. Do they learn anything the old fashion anymore, with the teacher teaching and writing on a black board and explaining things? I know they don't teach writing anymore, and have seen the awful chicken scribbles from older kids.
They were looking for technology to improve education 50+ years ago. My middle school sank a bunch of money into take home machines which played a tape and a film strip. They lasted a couple of months.
And they unlearned phonics a generation before that.
You are wise beyond your years Yuri to consider the value of earlier marriage (yesterday’s post) and today family focused childcare. I appreciate your insight. Life offers a huge menu of choices for the individual and I suppose a single childless person could chase after all sorts of options with only himself/herself to deal with failure or success. A lonely adventure in my opinion. With marriage and child rearing the consequences of both become more critical. There is little room for trial and error when other souls are affected by one’s decisions. I married at age 20, my husband 22. It’s been 46 years, 2 sons, 2 daughter-in-laws 3 grandsons and 3 granddaughters, lots of toil, a few tears and millions of small and sometimes big blessings. Because both of us were born to young parents in early marriages we also have living parents on each side. The accounting isn’t just a list, it’s the life I wake up to and live everyday. In my opinion there is no measurement to place value on the return of the investment to commit oneself to another person and grow a family. Starting early means enjoying in real time the fruits of your labor.
There are obviously grave issues with single parent homes. There also seem to be issues associated with having prosperous and progressive parents. This is the kind of thing most social scientists are allergic to but GD, over-parenting, neuroses, social justice ideology… all seemed to be linked to this parenting form and all are psychological liabilities.
It’s performance oriented parenting - pressure from others in your well educated, affluent community that disrupts the parental bond. It’s very damaging and demeaning to self worth.
They trying to manipulate people who count on government, schools, etc. to "protect" children. You'll never see a school bond issue fail...because they always cloak it in euphemistic necessities about "safety/well being" of children.
The State says this is all necessary...NOT. Necessity is the plea for every infringement of human freedom. It is the argument of Tyrants; it is the creed of slaves.
What they really want is to eliminate a parents "instincts" and have it sub'd out to the state. To me this is the threat; the real Trojan Horse.
That and unsupervised "smart" devices - digital babysitters.
Yet we stupidly wonder why kids these days have so many problems and are on meds.
Interesting info sir—a broader shift to promote more time for parenting would be great, esp for lower and middle income families. Tax breaks dont cut it, needs to be structural. We are fortunate to have had the same loving nanny for our kids for almost 10 years now, but we obviously can see past the end of noses.
Your article is great. The photo doesnt necessarily support it though - Im impressed that the mum is breast feeding a quite large child (so that suggests a lot of intimacy between mother and child, and not a woman who has outsourced her child care to another person with a bottle). The carer is painting the lady's nails as far as I can see.
The deconstruction of the American nuclear family began as a two pronged attack in the late 1960s by Commiefeminists and DemoCommies in DC.
The Commiefeminists obsession with sexual "equal rights" and spreading mental poison about "toxic masculinity," "paternalism" and the "bondage" of wives where the husband was the head of the household spread nationwide like a California wildfire. No Fault Divorce (which also began in California) further tore families apart - with NO CONSIDERATION AT ALL (by) the Commiefeminists for the CHILDREN of those broken homes - the male children deprived of MALE guidance drifted int gangs and petty crimes - and worse as they became teens and young adults.
During that same era, the DemoCommies under LBJ, rolled out their "War on Poverty" which was particularly devastating to BLACK families whereby federal rules for black female welfare checks were only paid IF therefore NO black males in the household!! On top of that, black females got more $$$ with each child born - OUT OF WEDLOCK and by different black men!
A few years ago I was asked, during an interview, what personal accomplishment I was most proud of. Without any hesitation I said "my kids". No matter what's gone on in my career, that will always be my greatest accomplishment and I get such peace and joy from it.
100%
To have children is the greatest joy in life and gives you a sense of intentional purpose and leaves a legacy for your grandchildren as a job well done. Sacrifice for others is an intentional decision with lifelong dividends.
Diversity is not always a good idea when different, unaligned values are influencing your children.
“Diversity is strength” is a lie. Turns out, unity is actually strength.
there is even a French - Belgian motto, L'union fait la force. Exactly that.
At least, the US allows home schooling. The countries in Europe mostly forbid it, unless the home schooling parent is a teacher.
I think there should also be some kind of reward towards stay at home mothers (or fathers). A Belgian political party in the 80s tried to get that done, but failed.
exactly regarding europe. here it is nearly impossible to home school. or your kid is totally retarded so keep him/her at home or must be a top sport person who can prove has no time for scheduled school. otherwise the only option is indoctrination.
My wife and I had decided early on that she would be a stay at home Mom for our three children. She was offered her dream position one week before she gave her notice. I picked up a second job some years later to pay for a private Christian Academy. I worked two jobs for eight years before I was confident I could swing it with one. I am blessed beyond belief, my eighth Grandchild is due in June and through it all I would not change one thing. Thank you LORD.
Blessings to you - your sacrifices made you a patriarch and matriarch.
I'm glad I spend a lot of time with my young grandchildren and help my daughter and son-in-law by doing so.
Grandparents are the best and so under-appreciated in modern society.
Perhaps, but in our family, grandparents have a long history of being involved. I love it and wouldn't miss a minute.
I am frustrated by the scapegoating of “tech” for the destruction of western children’s psyches. It’s not the tech; the tech is where these children turn when their lives are made disorienting and meaningless.
Don’t blame the tech. Parents have a job to do, and it’s a hard job, that you most assuredly can royally fail at. It takes serious intention and inner work to become a parent of highly-functioning children.
Right.
Unsupervised tech by parents is one of the problems...not tech itself.
I considered my self fortunate and never regretted that I was able to take an extended leave after my children were born and then only worked 2 days a week (while my mother in-law watched them) till they were school aged. Sadly our society is now outsourcing teachers to AI programs. We even give children as young as preschool a device in the name of education. I hope as a society we can somehow reverse this trend. We need to put childhood before profits.
We had Lincoln Logs, Tinker Toys, and flashcards.
We had bb guns and shot each other. Or used our GI Joe's to blow up barbie dolls with cherry bombs.
Best times ever!
In fact I chuckled when I read at the beginning of the scamdemic, that kids were going to have to learn at home with computers. I just had seen pictures from American classrooms with all kids at a computer. Do they learn anything the old fashion anymore, with the teacher teaching and writing on a black board and explaining things? I know they don't teach writing anymore, and have seen the awful chicken scribbles from older kids.
Sadly technology is increasingly being pushed on educators to use with students and not surprisingly, student performance is declining. Check out my article on Public: https://www.public.news/p/big-tech-hubris-and-greed-behind
They were looking for technology to improve education 50+ years ago. My middle school sank a bunch of money into take home machines which played a tape and a film strip. They lasted a couple of months.
And they unlearned phonics a generation before that.
Blecch, that mom in the first pic looks like she’s about 55, and it’s probably not her tenth baby or anything.
You are wise beyond your years Yuri to consider the value of earlier marriage (yesterday’s post) and today family focused childcare. I appreciate your insight. Life offers a huge menu of choices for the individual and I suppose a single childless person could chase after all sorts of options with only himself/herself to deal with failure or success. A lonely adventure in my opinion. With marriage and child rearing the consequences of both become more critical. There is little room for trial and error when other souls are affected by one’s decisions. I married at age 20, my husband 22. It’s been 46 years, 2 sons, 2 daughter-in-laws 3 grandsons and 3 granddaughters, lots of toil, a few tears and millions of small and sometimes big blessings. Because both of us were born to young parents in early marriages we also have living parents on each side. The accounting isn’t just a list, it’s the life I wake up to and live everyday. In my opinion there is no measurement to place value on the return of the investment to commit oneself to another person and grow a family. Starting early means enjoying in real time the fruits of your labor.
Thanks for sharing your story. Your children and grandchildren are lucky to have you.
There are obviously grave issues with single parent homes. There also seem to be issues associated with having prosperous and progressive parents. This is the kind of thing most social scientists are allergic to but GD, over-parenting, neuroses, social justice ideology… all seemed to be linked to this parenting form and all are psychological liabilities.
https://jmpolemic.substack.com/p/job-search-part-5
It’s performance oriented parenting - pressure from others in your well educated, affluent community that disrupts the parental bond. It’s very damaging and demeaning to self worth.
You nailed it Yuri.
They trying to manipulate people who count on government, schools, etc. to "protect" children. You'll never see a school bond issue fail...because they always cloak it in euphemistic necessities about "safety/well being" of children.
The State says this is all necessary...NOT. Necessity is the plea for every infringement of human freedom. It is the argument of Tyrants; it is the creed of slaves.
What they really want is to eliminate a parents "instincts" and have it sub'd out to the state. To me this is the threat; the real Trojan Horse.
That and unsupervised "smart" devices - digital babysitters.
Yet we stupidly wonder why kids these days have so many problems and are on meds.
Interesting info sir—a broader shift to promote more time for parenting would be great, esp for lower and middle income families. Tax breaks dont cut it, needs to be structural. We are fortunate to have had the same loving nanny for our kids for almost 10 years now, but we obviously can see past the end of noses.
Your article is great. The photo doesnt necessarily support it though - Im impressed that the mum is breast feeding a quite large child (so that suggests a lot of intimacy between mother and child, and not a woman who has outsourced her child care to another person with a bottle). The carer is painting the lady's nails as far as I can see.
The rest of the exhibit showed that she was an indentured servant who handled all of the childcare. Breast feeding is good.
The highest share of (voluntary) single parenting.
That male Tyngsboro daycare pervert pretends he's a woman and was referred to as "she/her" in the press. #NotOurCrimes
The deconstruction of the American nuclear family began as a two pronged attack in the late 1960s by Commiefeminists and DemoCommies in DC.
The Commiefeminists obsession with sexual "equal rights" and spreading mental poison about "toxic masculinity," "paternalism" and the "bondage" of wives where the husband was the head of the household spread nationwide like a California wildfire. No Fault Divorce (which also began in California) further tore families apart - with NO CONSIDERATION AT ALL (by) the Commiefeminists for the CHILDREN of those broken homes - the male children deprived of MALE guidance drifted int gangs and petty crimes - and worse as they became teens and young adults.
During that same era, the DemoCommies under LBJ, rolled out their "War on Poverty" which was particularly devastating to BLACK families whereby federal rules for black female welfare checks were only paid IF therefore NO black males in the household!! On top of that, black females got more $$$ with each child born - OUT OF WEDLOCK and by different black men!
Excellent article!!